Who knows why we do the things we do or what makes us tick? Some people know what they want to be when they grow up from the age of five and they become obsessed with it and follow through. Most people change their minds five times before they figure it out and still, some never make the connection and spend their life wandering and wondering.
Often we get detoured, distracted, dissuaded, and discouraged from doing the thing that the pit of our stomach tells us we should do. Or we get bored and lose interest quickly – who knows why. Maybe our families soak up any energy we have and we put our passions on hold. And some simply don’t care what they do – they choose to live day to day, putting family and friends above all else, only doing the 9-to-5 to pay bills. There’s nothing wrong with any of those paths.
Except that I’ve always wished I could know what it is that I want to do and be really really good at that one thing. But I’m one of the people who are still wondering and wandering, losing interest and getting bored, getting distracted and discouraged too easily, and probably trying to do too many different things without much focus. I have too many hobbies and probably undiagnosed ADHD.
I always hear people say these horrible vague cliches like “follow your heart” and “just be yourself”. But my brain and my heart are confused – they give conflicting and impulsive advice. And “just being myself” isn’t really an option when I’m always changing and trying to not be the self I don’t like.
I read a quote recently “just be yourself – unless you want people to like you”.
Am I the only one who can’t tell the difference between my heart and my mind talking? If you can tell the difference, which one usually wins out most of the time – the head or the heart? And does your heart always save you or does it cause you much anguish down the road? Won’t listening to your mind sometimes protect you?
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